Misconception of Men

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Misconception of Men 
Wanda Wade

As women, do we have a realistic view of men or have we created something in our heads of what we’d like them to be? Whenever my girlfriends and I get together the topic of men will undoubtedly creep into our conversation.  It’s a topic that's fun, insightful, serious and downright juicy. We discuss everything from what we think makes a man a great catch, to the ever regretful question of, what was I thinking? That question usually brings laughter and some introspection. Although we sometimes complain about men, one steadfast conclusion we all agree upon is, us without them will not work. Which brings me to my current topic. Instead of complaining about men why not take a closer look into our polar opposites and try to get a better understanding of what makes them tick?

I’ll be the first to admit, I’m no expert when it comes to men but I believe I’ve learned quite a bit about and from them. For instance, if a man is focused on you he will do whatever it takes to win your heart. As much as he is hard there’s definitely a softer side to him, though it does take a little patience and a lot of trust to see. In their defense men have been taught not to show emotion because let's face it, the world shuns in this wonderful and crazy world it can sometimes be looked upon as a weakness.

I believe the biggest misconception we have about men is that we expect them to be like us, to think like us and to react the same way that we do to things but honestly that’s just unrealistic. The book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus hits it dead on, simply by the title alone.  Just as these two planets function differently so do men and women and it’s a wonder that we don’t bump heads more often than we do. 

Think about the planet of Mars and what it represents. It's named after the Roman god of war, thus giving a man strength, power and the ability to hunt. Venus on the other hand happens to be softer and is named after the Roman goddess of beauty and love, which can definitely be likened to most women. Our outward appearance is what generally captures the attention of men so being compared to Venus is not a far reach. 

Women also seem to have an innate ability to equate most things with love.  For example, if your guy forgets a birthday or  any other significant event, how often do you say or even think to yourself, he doesn’t love me. This happens because of the emotions you have tied to the event and your expectation of how you want him to think. An easy solution could be to send him a reminder or even put it on his calendar. Although, some women may see this as holding his hand the end result is the same. He holds your hand by protecting you, keeping you safe and loving you. In return, you get the comfort of him being there, no hurt feelings and together the two of you get to share a special moment. After all,  with him is where you want to be and in an effort to make that happen I suggest that we give men a break by learning to embrace their differences and even more, to be understanding  in spite of them.

The misconception of men may be our own misconception - wanda wade